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School Districts’ Play a Vital Role in Students’ Lives

School districts play a huge role in students’ lives. After all, it is their responsibility to protect our children / their students to the absolute best of their ability, even if it may mean them looking bad.

Bullying, for example, has shown its ugly face at too many schools, in the past decade. How are the school districts handling this outbreak of hostility? Many of them have picked up the anti-bullying campaign, but what are their tactics for handling this problem? Do they bring the student accused of bullying into their offices and confront them, along with their parents to discuss the seriousness of the situation?  Or is the school district weary of publicizing it to the student and their parents and for what reasons?

School districts have a reputation to uphold. They don’t want to look bad or as if they are to blame, in some way, for the bully’s behavior, so perhaps they keep it quiet and handle it in their own way, rather than confront it through a one-on-one confrontation. I’m sorry, but a school rally, preaching about anti-bullying isn’t going to fix it. Yes, anti-bullying rallies are good for bringing awareness to the student-body, but they do not stop the bullies in their tracks, nor do they make it undesirable to be cruel to another student. This is attained through direct communication.

The truth is, many schools experience bullying and a huge reason for this is because there are no distinct consequences established for bad behavior. Most kids will do things that they know they can get away with, without getting into trouble. However, if there were more consequences enforced for their bad behavior, perhaps, those same students may be less likely to act out through bullying.

Bullying is a serious crime, especially in today’s age, where the bullying can continue even after all the students go home…thanks to social media and cell phones. The day when we preached “words don’t hurt” are over, we all know that they do hurt. The school is obligated to protect their students, by making them feel safe, at least while the children are in school and on their campus, because all students have the right to feel safe while away from home. It is our responsibility as parents, friends, teachers, and especially administration, to stand up for students who are being bullied, and let them know we care and that there will be something done about it. The bully will be brought into the office with their parents and if the situation does not correct itself, the student who is bullying will be suspended and or expelled.

Drastic changes need to be made. The school districts are simply not doing enough to deter students away from bullying. As a community, we need to practice and teach kindness to others, and set a good example for the younger generations; by enforcing, that being mean to another human being is not okay and will not be tolerated! It is also important, as parents, to teach our children, in home, to be kind and that under no circumstance will bullying be accepted.  Remember, children follow our lead, so make sure to practice what you preach.

Please, spread kindness! The world needs it ❤

 

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OUT OF THE DARKNESS COMMUNITY WALK

Join us for the annual Coachella Valley Out of the Darkness Community Walk, sponsored by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) in Palm Desert, California.

When: Saturday March 23, 2019

Time: 9:00 am – 12:00 pm

Event:

  • Walk to honor and in memory of a loved one lost to suicide
  • Honorary Bead Ceremony
  • Celebration of Life Speech – Speaker: Jayne Wilkinson

Come and join us or you may donate to the cause by following the link below:

Donation Button to AFSP Website

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MUSIC TO MOOD CORRELATION

How does music affect a person’s mood? 
There have been several studies on music and how it may affect one’s mood; such as, in a study using rats. The study was set up using music with several different types of genres that were played to the rats; such as rock, classical, and rap music.
During the rock music, the rats started getting violent and trying to fight with each other. They acted as if there wasn’t enough food in their cage, as if they had to fight for food or resources. (Although there was the same amount of food and resources for each experiment).
When the rap music was played, the rats acted nervous and anxious. They scurried around their cage, more often than usual, unable to stay in one place; compared to when there was no music playing.
When the classical music was played, the rats were calm and kept to themselves. They generally stayed sedentary, only moving about when necessary; such as to get food and water.
In conclusion, this study is a good example, showing how different types of music can affect your mood. Listening to rap music all day, using vulgar words and singing about illegal activity, is going to have an impact on your mindset. It doesn’t necessarily mean you are going to go out and perform these same acts, but they have been stored into your subconscious and conscious mind.
Negative music may over-stimulate your mind with these thoughts, especially since they are being stored in your conscious mind, which is in the front of your brain and easily accessible, while navigating through your everyday activities.
The same happens while listening to something more positive, such as classical music; subsequently, it is naturally calming and that is more likely to put your mind and body into a calmer state.
These findings do not mean that everyone needs to change their music preferences. I personally enjoy rap music. However, we should be wary how often we, and our teenagers, are listening to it.  The world is filled with over-stimulating devices, videos, and music, so wouldn’t it be better for our mental health to chose positive words, songs, and music to allow into our subconscious and conscious minds?  Perhaps, over time, it will give us a new perspective, making an overall difference in our mood, body, and attitude.
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Teenagers, Poetry, and Explicit Language

Teenagers, Poetry, and Explicit Language

Should a teen be allowed to view and/or listen to explicit music, poetry, books, or should parents shield them from this? Different types of poetry and music convey subject matter that may be very mature, and perhaps not something that a teen may often come across or speak about in their own circles.

For example, the book, Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur,  its subject matter is extremly heavy; perhaps, the content may not be good for them and their well-being? Or is it good because a lot of these teens can relate to the words being written? This particular book of poems speaks about rape, absent fathers, the confusion of love, being used, and many more serious subject matters. Some parents may find this to be too graphic, not wanting their teens to be exposed to the seriousness of the content; however, there may be other parents who understand that it may be a way for them to relate and a form of self-expression.

A huge part of being a teenager is feeling as if they are all alone with their experiences and that they are the only person who is going through something (ex. rape or an unstable family home). Teenagers shouldn’t have to feel alone with these experiences, and it’s not healthy.

Subsequently, it is healthy to realize that others are experiencing the same situations, feelings, thoughts, experiences and poems like these and it may console them like a comforting friend. Such as someone similar to them who has experienced similar events. How did they react? How were they able to pull themselves through the rough time? How did they seek help and healing?

While the content is serious, it is also real. These poems, songs, and /or lyrics are another persons’ real-life stories and their lived experiences. It is also reality that teenagers today go through these same kinds of experiences. Perhaps, shielding your teenager, who may be hurting from something they’ve gone through and not feeling comfortable talking to an adult about it; may be making them feel even more alone.

Some parents may think that by guarding their children and teenagers, from unpleasant things in the world, will make the unpleasant experience not real, but this is not true.

The adolescent years are full of expression, knowledge, confusion, and finding out who they are and who they want to be. The beauty of being able to relate to life through art — poetry, music, and reading, in ways, allows them to choose what is best for them, based on their own lives. This is an important aspect of their developmental stage and helping them to navigate through tough times and life.

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WHAT IS HAPPINESS?

WHAT IS HAPPINESS?

The definition of happiness is the state of being happy.  It is one of our many emotions. As any emotion, we all have varying definitions to how we feel and what our emotions personally mean to us.  Society puts so much pressure on us to be “happy”, but since it is an emotion, one cannot simply flip a switch and be happy.  An emotion comes and goes, such as anger, sadness, joy, or frustration. We may not have the choice to disregard negative emotions, however we do have the choice to control how these emotions make us react or behave.

Everything has an opposite effect.  We can’t find happiness with out knowing sadness and vice versa.  Happiness isn’t a state of bliss, it’s simply an emotion.  We won’t feel it forever, nor will we feel sadness or anger forever; if we understand this, we won’t be so disappointed with the fading of a happy emotion.  Yes, it was wonderful in the moment, but it WILL return.

We all have our own idea of what happiness means to us.  We may think we are happy when we have a lot of people around us, we think money will make us happy, perhaps a certain person makes us happy, or happiness can be as simple as the sweet fragrance of a flower.  Happiness comes from within you and if you are searching for happiness externally, such as solely from another person or environment, then we will always be disappointed.  It’s not an external feeling, that’s why it’s called an emotion, because it comes from within YOU.

Perhaps you feel broken and feel as if you will never be happy again; this is where you need to believe in yourself and take life day by day… maybe that’s being too optimistic, for now let’s just take it moment by moment. There’s always hope for the future- you don’t know what it holds!

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HAPPY HOLIDAYS

The Jewels’ Angels Foundation would like to wish everyone the happiest holiday season and a very peaceful New Years!

We would also like to thank all those who helped to make Santa’s Angels a success this year, bringing over $500 dollars worth of gifts to the Corona-Norco Rescue Mission.  Our goal was to bring joy into those lives needing a little help during this time of year and together we made it happen.

Peace and love throughout the year and always remember, you are not alone in this journey called life.

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SANTA’S ANGELS TOY DRIVE

The Jewels’ Angels Foundation believes in giving back to our community.  This December we will be delivering, donated items, to the Norco-Corona Rescue Mission (Women’s / Children’s Shelter), in the hopes of making this holiday season a little bit more special for families in need.

We will be delivering items to the shelter on Friday December 21st – boy / girl, unwrapped gift for the ages between 1 – 14 years old.  Attached is a Wish List from the children; however, anything is greatly appreciated and as always, thank you:

Age 1:

Footed pajamas size 18 months

TJ Maxx Gift Card

Age 3:

Vans’ shoes size 8.5 -9

Gift Card

Stuffed animal that’s says “Prayers

Age 7:

Faith-based movies

Sweats & hoodie, size 8 girls

Age 10:

Nike shoes, size 7 girls

Soft pillow

Insect cage

Bike Helmet, boy

Age 11:

New shoes, size 6 girls

Watch

Scooter

Electric car

Age 12:

Black FitBit

Skateboard (big one)

Vans Backpack

Roller skates, size 9 women

Age 14:

Gift card or Starbucks’ Gift card

Shoes, size 9 boys

 

Please e-mail us or call for pick-up / drop off arrangement or drop off at the shelter:

(951) 393-0375

Jayne’s e-mail address

Paxton’s e-mail address

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Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the act of enjoying your present moment – really thinking about, remembering, and taking in your current surroundings; such as, feelings, smells, sounds, moments. A lot of the time our minds wander; we may think about what we have to get done during the week or upcoming plans in the next month. These thoughts are okay, but it takes away from our current moment. Mindfulness, really taking in what we are doing/what is going on in our present time, helps ground us and encourages us to be grateful for the little things.

I know- it’s easier said than done. But staying mindful, and keeping a positive mindset is an important key to leading a happy life. Mental illness IS real, and a struggle many people deal with daily in their lives. Keeping a positive mindset won’t cure your mental illness, but it is a good tip to remember to help brighten up a dark day or to bring some perspective into your life on what you are grateful for. Constantly thinking negatively does greatly affect ones mood- the mind is a powerful being! The more negative thoughts you think, the more you will start to believe them.

Positivity is a powerful, and easy tool you can use throughout your day. It doesn’t hurt to try!

 

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Out of the Darkness Community Walk

We will be participating on Saturday November 10, 2018, in the Upland (Inland Empire) Out of the Darkness Community Walk.

Why do we walk?  After losing Jewels to suicide in 2016 we had to do something.  We started The Jewels’ Angels Foundation in memory to her and others struggling with teen depression and suicidal thoughts.

We also walk for those of us who have survived a loved one lost to suicide.  Jewels was only fourteen-years old, but yet she was the kindest and oldest soul we’ve ever known.  This is what SHE would have wanted us to do, so please donate or come out and support us as we walk in Upland, or you may even join our TEAM.

We’ve provide the website link below:

Team – The Jewels’ Angels Foundation Out of the Darkness Community Walk

And thank you and always remember…You are not alone and you matter!

Click on the link above to donate towards our goal of raising $1,000 for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention research for suicide prevention, join our team, or you may contact me us:   jwilkinson@jewelsangels.org

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Social Anxiety

Social anxiety affects more people in the United States than most are aware. Being nervous around large crowds of people or speaking in front of others are concepts that can be thought of as pretty normal. However, there is a difference between social anxiety and specific social anxiety.

Specific social anxiety can be the fear of public speaking, or the fear of not being prepared for a specific task/activity. Social anxiety is different because it involves fears that are not common to most people; such as, the fear of being introduced to strangers or fearing any kinds of social gatherings.

Having to perform these tasks with social anxiety can be stressful, and can lead to feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, and even depression. Often times these people are forced to do these tasks that causes them social anxiety because they are a part of everyday life. These fears may seem irrational, and the people with this disorder usually know this. However, knowing something and feeling something are two completely different concepts. While these people know these fears are irrational, they still experience the physical reactions from these fears such as sweating or a shaky voice.

Luckily, there is a way for one’s social anxiety to be distinguished. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) works to “rewire” the brain passage ways and allow people to form new ways of thinking about their social anxieties. With lots of time, therapy (CBT), and consistency, most social anxieties may be cured.

Another important aspect for treatment is the setting of the therapy. It needs to be a welcoming and non-judgmental place in order for someone to be able to share their fears and their negative thoughts to their therapist without feeling like they are being judged for being irrational. Especially since people with social anxiety are sensitive to what others think about them, this is a very important aspect in treatment to consider.

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If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 and remember you are not alone!