A survivor of suicide is someone who has lost a loved one to suicide. Survivors may be moms, dads, siblings, aunts, friends, etc. When a person dies of suicide, there is a lot of focus on why they did it and if there were any warning signs. We may ask ourselves if we could have prevented it. We may have feelings of guilt and may think we were not there for them or supported them as they needed, but it is not our fault.
It is so important, as survivors of suicide, to take care of ourselves. Of course it is okay to mourn for our lost loved ones, but we cannot allow ourselves to fall into unhealthy habits or ignore our own self-health and mental health.
Possible healthy outlets may be seeing a therapist, going to group therapy, going to church, exercise, or more simple activities, such as going on walks/hikes and surrounding ourselves with positive people. It is not a selfish act for us to focus on ourselves, as a suicide survivor, and what we need to do to stay happy, healthy, and most importantly, alive. Seriously! Someone close to us dying of suicide increases the risk of suicide throughout family members and friends by 65% (Medical Daily, Pitman A, Osbourne, 2016). Making sure we are taking care of yourself during these hard times is an absolutely necessary precaution.
Suicide does not discriminate. It does not choose whether you’re rich or poor, black or white, have a big family or small family, or have mental illness history in the family, it can affect anyone. There are so many factors that go into why someone may end their life, but usually it is a combination of several combined aspects.
So be kind and always remember that being a suicide survivor can happen to anyone. Hug your loved ones close and be a non-criticizing shoulder to cry on when needed. and never judge. You may think you know what is like to walk in someone else shoes, but until you do, you don’t❤️
Spread kindness and remember…you are not alone, there are resources to reach out to when you’re feeling depressed or suicidal…including us. We have walked in your shoes, as survivors and with our own suicidal thoughts and ideations, so never be afraid to reach out for help or admit that you do.